Dr. Phil cracks me up.

Dr. Phil Mc Graw, I like and respect him, but his make-up is on pretty heavy for that big strapping "Good ol' boy Texan attitude".  He is all Beverley Hills now and it's TV, I get it.  His show is still on the air and has turned into a psychology version of Jerry Springer.  

I don't watch TV anymore, but I do find it very entertaining to see his shows on Youtube like, "My Drunken Daughter Will Die if She Doesn't Stop Drinking Hand Sanitizer" or "I Spanked My Wife with a Wooden Spoon, and She Needs to Repent."  HILARIOUS!  These are actually serious, which makes it even funnier.  


But I do like his ability to listen and help people take a look at themselves and their own realities.  I believe he has helped millions of people through his shows. I do learn some gold nuggets from his show and all of the characters he has on it.  

These Ten Life Laws are actually valuable.  CHECK THESE OUT:

Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.

It's easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.

You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules.

In designing a strategy and getting the information you need — about yourself, people you encounter, or situations — be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.
You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.

Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.

Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.

Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you've got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it.

Find and control the payoffs, because you can't stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance.

Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It's easier not to change. Try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.

If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You've got to face it to replace it.

Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.

Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it's not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn't care less about thoughts without actions.
Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words.

Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life.

Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.

Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.

You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.

We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.

Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.

You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.

Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster.

The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don't have a plan, you'll be a stepping stone for those who do. You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don't require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.

If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior.

Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.
Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks.

Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you.

Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.

Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!

By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track.

Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it. Remember that if you don't, someone else will.

Dissolving The Ego ~ Neil Kramer

I really dig Neil Kramer's philosophy and mind.

Neil Kramer gained an insight very early on in to how the general public has been lulled into ignorant confusion by our toxic cultural paradigms. As a result he was ahead of the field when all of the conspiracy theories began to emerge. Neil will explain how these dark projections are in fact a means of accelerating awakening. 

In these video's, he will discuss the importance of dissolving the shadow through discernment, balance and integration, and an understanding of the need for flow in our masculine and feminine energies. Neil will also describe his 7-D model of dimensional realms and densities of consciousness.  GOOD STUFF!

Dissolving The Ego pt. 1 of 6
Dissolving The Ego pt. 2 of 6

Dissolving The Ego pt. 3 of 6

Dissolving The Ego pt. 4 of 6

Dissolving The Ego pt. 5 of 6
Dissolving The Ego pt.6 of 6

He has a new book out that I just ordered:

For more of Neil's work....http://neilkramer.com/

Saturn into Sagittarius, first time in 30 years...

HEADS UP FRIENDS!  Saturn will move through the second half of Scorpio November-December 2014, and on December 23, 2014 it will enter Sagittarius at 11: 33 A.M. for the first time in 30 years, having last transited this sign 1985-87. 

Here is a great article describing what this may be like...

It’s a significant event when Saturn changes signs, because the “reality check” planet brings its rules to a new area of life. On December 23rd, 2014, Saturn will enter Sagittarius. The sign of expansion will host Saturn until December 19th, 2017 (except for an Rx dip back into Scorpio from June 14th, 2015 – September 17th, 2015). Read on to see how this might impact relationships in general, as limits are applied to a sign that’s about going beyond the limits.

First, a quick review of what this fire sign represents. Expansion and exploration are the first words that come to mind when Sagittarius is mentioned. But those are umbrella terms that cover belief systems, philosophy, truth, religion, education and legal matters. Sagittarius sees the big picture (hence its reputation for being a generalist). The understanding of how it all fits together makes it intuitive, but details are often sacrificed in favor of a general truth. The Sagittarius approach to life is optimistic; its orientation towards the horizon means that there is always more out there and things can get better. Sag asks “Why not?”

Along comes Saturn, with an answer that will be along the lines of “Because.” Full stop. Saturn brings results, so we could see a line in the sand for some relationship ideals or truths. Some may be seeking proof to back up their relationship philosophy, and Saturn will offer that proof. But Saturn can just as easily offer the reality that disproves those philosophies. I’m referring to the concept of commitment versus freedom, or monogamy versus open (polyamorous) unions. There may be a pronounced focus (Saturn) on these ideas. In a previous article I wrote on open relationships, I noted that Sagittarius seemed to be one of the signs that was emphasized in the charts of people who were in open relationships.

Saturn formalizes, and this may happen in Sagittarius. It won’t be enough to make grandiose declarations of love, or weave exciting stories for a relationship’s future. Saturn will demand concrete plans, and proof to back those plans up. Saturn in Sagittarius will insist that you walk the talk. I think (in a similar way to Saturn’s transit of Libra) we may see more marriages and divorces. But rather than formalizing relationships (Libra) Saturn in Sag will be formalizing the promises, hopes and philosophies of those relationships. People will be asking what being in a relationship means. Some will be ready to apply rules to their relationship ideals, while others will discover that the future they envisioned does not match their partner’s ideal. Sagittarius represents legal issues, and marriage/divorce are legal matters. The end result may be similar to Saturn in Libra, but it’s coming from a different level. In a similar vein, Sag’s energy of generalization will be constricted. People will zero in on truths and lies in relationships, focusing on the details behind the sales pitch. Faith (in your partner, in the idea of love/trust/commitment) will be put to the test.

Sagittarius and Libra sextile each other, so relationships that were formalized when Saturn was in Libra may be pushed to nail down the next step on the journey. This could be a case of “Where do we go from here? Are we on the same page?” This would most likely occur when Saturn sextiles the degree it was at in Libra on the day you got married, or the day you decided to become exclusive with your partner. A sextile is harmonious, so this shouldn’t be a stressful time. It will be a gentle push to delineate your shared hopes for the future. Again, the shift from big picture to specifics. Taking the partnership’s future and anchoring it in the present.

The possible downside to Saturn in Sag is the potential for rigid belief systems and strict religious ideology. Saturn crystallizes, and while one would hope that Sag’s freeing influence would prevail, the Shadow side of this sign is fanatical adherence to certain “truths.” There may be a risk that some of the progress we’ve seen around same-sex marriage could backslide. I don’t think it will be totally undone (you can’t reverse the flow of evolution) but Saturn in Sag does suggest the manifestation of authority for a type of teacher or guru. And if his/her teachings are rooted in fear, a non-traditional relationship model may be a target.

But this is speculation, not a prediction. Overall, I think Saturn’s transit of Sagittarius will push people to become specific about what they envision for their love life, and how they’re going make that happen. Faith in love and companionship will be tested, proven or disproved. Ideals about being with another person will be confronted with reality. For some, this may be a harsh wake-up call. For others, it will enable them to manifest what they’ve always hoped for. In all cases, truth will be become the driving force in unions and break-ups. Stay tuned over the next two weeks as I explore the specifics of this transit’s impact on relationships for the mutable signs and fire signs.

http://sasstrology.com/2014/07/saturns-transit-of-sagittarius-relationship-ideals-get-real.html

How Does Your “Attachment Style” Impact Your Adult Relationships?

I thought this article was very interesting.  

Which Attachment Style are you?

Your adult attachment style has developed as a result of repetitive interpersonal interactions with important caregivers or parents as children. These early interactions with significant others result in the development of expectations for how readily people are capable of meeting your needs and serve as an emotional blueprint for what to expect from other people. Over time, we begin to develop a sense of ourselves as an autonomous individual based on feedback and emotional containment from our caregivers. As adults, we take these attachment styles into our relationships with others, creating a complex interpersonal “dance” of emotions, motivations, and expectations.

Secure Attachment Style:

Adults with a secure attachment style tend to value relationships and are able to readily identify memories and feelings from their childhoods in non-defensive ways. For adults whose childhood held traumatic memories or unreliable/inconsistent parenting, they can still “acquire” a secure attachment style as an adult based on their willingness and ability to work through those unpleasant experiences and acknowledge their impact. For securely attached adults, they tend to not experience intense anxiety or fear when loved ones are not readily available, as they trust that they will be there when they need them. (This is an example of a relationship expectation learned in infancy/childhood.)
As you read the “typical statements” of adults with each of the four main attachment styles, consider how these statements were learned in relation to expectations from parents or primary caregivers. For example, “I know [my mom] will be there for me when I need [her].”
Typical statements of a secure adult:

• “I know he will be there for me when I need him.”
• “He is able to comfort me when I’m distressed.”
• “I enjoy it when she gets emotionally close, because I feel emotionally close to her.”

Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment Style:

A dismissive/avoidant attachment style is often marked by an adult’s inability to recall many details about his childhood. For example, when asked about family relationships or childhood, this adult may respond with a statement similar to, “My family… my parents… I don’t know. I don’t remember much about growing up.” There may also be a tendency to describe one’s parents in either overly idealized or overly devalued terms – seeing them somewhat dichotomously. This attachment style may impact current adult relationships by the expression of detachment and avoidance of emotional closeness. There may be great value placed on appearing self-reliant, competent, or independent, since as a child these individuals learned that showing vulnerability was unacceptable.
Typical statements of a dismissive adult:

• “I don’t care if she doesn’t love me / want me.”
• “I don’t tell him I’m upset because I can take care of my feeling myself.”
• “No problem. Everything’s fine.”

Preoccupied/Anxious Attachment Style:

A preoccupied or anxious attachment style may manifest itself in an adult appearing to be “all caught up” or ensnared in preoccupations about current or past relationships. It is almost as if these individuals don’t have room in their own minds for their own minds… they are completely filled with thoughts about other people and preserving relationships. The central theme of this attachment style is a fear of losing relationships.
You may guess that this attachment style tends to develop in children whose parents were inconsistently available or unpredictable. This can leave children feeling preoccupied with how to hold on to those important relationships, which were perplexing or unstable. Teyber and McClure (2011) note that “many preoccupied [individuals] grew up enmeshed (and often parentified) with an unpredictable parent who was too often caught up in his/her own emotional upheavals to be able to be a safe haven and provide containment and affect regulation for the child.”
Typical statements of a preoccupied adult:

• “I’m often wondering whether she really cares about me or not.”
• “I often feel dependent on him for emotional support.”
• “I turn to him when I’m upset, but it doesn’t really help me feel much better.”

Fearful Attachment Style:

Fearfully attached adults may display a wide array of symptoms, with some combination of emotions present in both dismissive and preoccupied adults. Two primary themes pervade the fearful attachment style: (1) they are likely to have suffered significant parental hostility or overt rejection, and (2) some have suffered physical or sexual abuse, but have not come to terms with the impact of the abuse. These adults may display a variety of acting out symptoms (e.g., drug/alcohol abuse or self-injurious behavior). These individuals desperately want to approach others and make meaningful connections, although they are terrified at the prospect of genuine relationships with other people because they have learned that relationships can be quite dangerous – even terrifying.
Consider the following “typical statements” as messages that the adult heard from the parent about themselves as a child. As an adult, they are likely to have internalized those hurtful statements and now believe them to be true about themselves. For example, imagine the impact of a parent saying to their young child, “What’s wrong with you?!?” These statements can have a lasting deleterious impact on the growing child’s self-esteem and sense of self-worth.
Typical statements of a fearful adult:

• “There’s something wrong with me.”
• “I don’t matter – I just hate myself.”
• “No one would want to be with someone like me.”

As you read through these four adult attachment styles, consider the way in which the messages that you have internalized about what to expect from other people, relationships, and even yourself is intimately connected to the messages that you received from your primary caregivers. Imagine how differently two people might behave if one of them was raised by parents who provided consistency, stability, and love, versus one raised by parents who were self-absorbed in their own emotional dramas, yet deluded themselves into believing they did “what was best” for their children.
The messages that you received about your own self-worth/strengths and what to expect in close relationships with other people is imprinted on you as you grow into adulthood. However, even if you weren’t raised in a stable home that could provide a foundation for a secure attachment style, you have the opportunity to work through any losses, mixed messages, or traumatic experiences that you had in childhood now, as an adult. With adulthood comes the opportunity to cultivate the mindful wisdom necessary to heal any old wounds and to become the strong, loving, and consistent parent that you would like to be for your own children.  Written on February 19, 2012 by Laura in Individual Differences
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If you are interested in learning what your adult attachment style is, try this free attachment style quiz, based on the widely used “Experiences in Close Relationships – Revised” (ECR-R) questionnaire.

Teyber, E., & McClure, F. H. (2011). Interpersonal process in therapy: An integrative model. (6 ed., pp. 232-279). Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole.

Time slips along my path...

There have been several times in my life where I had such profound glimpses into my own future that I felt I was actually there witnessing what was happening from a separate viewpoint.  I mean, I was watching what was happening to me from a crowd. 

It’s happened a few times to me, the most profound time I can remember was when I walked out onto the football field for the first time as a freshman in high school on a bright sunny day back in 1977.  I stood in one spot and looked up at the stadium stands and suddenly it was dark, there was a stage and I was standing there under a spotlight being crowned homecoming queen.  I felt all of the emotions, but was shocked to see what I was seeing WAS ME up there.  I stopped for a second and said to myself, “No Way”. 

I didn’t even know what that celebration was since I came from the 8^th grade.  I looked around and the bleachers were full of people.  This was not some fantasy or dreaming thing, this was so real that I literally felt like I was there.  Then suddenly I was back at school and it was a sunny day.  I brushed it off as some weird thing.  The intensity of the experience stayed with me for a long time. 

4 years later that very experience actually happened.  I was crowned homecoming queen just like in the vision. I looked down into the crowd to see if I was standing there.  I didn’t see myself.  It was exactly like the vision I had experienced years before except I was standing on the stage being crowned. 

This happened again to me in 1985.  I had just finished my day shift at a job in Sausalito.  It was sunset and I was walking up the hill to my car and suddenly it was a bright sunny morning and I was standing in front of an old white haired woman.  She had her face turned away from me as she was talking about the garden in her front yard.  

I saw the side of her face she looked familiar and then I looked at her body and she was old and thin, she had long white hair all pulled up, she must have been at least 75 + years old.  She looked like she was living in a beautiful home, standing in her long steep driveway.  I looked again and could recognize her voice.  IT WAS ME!  Oh my God, I was seeing myself as an old woman.  I was beautiful, and I looked healthy.  I really stopped in my tracks and did a huge double take.  That was me?  Wow! 

This was not some profound celebration or anything like the vision I had before.  It was just a glimpse of me in my future again.  I took a step back to catch my breath, and then it was sunset again and I was looking up the hill to get to my car.  I remember sitting there for a long time.  It made me feel like I had a long life ahead of me.  At the age of 23 one doesn’t really think that is a big deal.  It was this very same year I started to go by Tré instead of Tracy.  At that time in my life, I felt sure that I would not live past the age of 30.  Don’t ask me why, but I never thought I would live very long in this life until I saw this vision of myself.  Why did I get to see myself like this?  

I didn’t know it at the time, but I think I do today.  Who would have thought that in the years to come that I would have a serious eating disorder?  Or that later I would suffer a head, neck and back injury and then have difficulty standing and walking and find myself overweight and living in physical pain?  So much pain and suffering that there were times I would consider ending my life?  There were times that I resented that vision because I didn’t want to live that long.  But seeing myself happy and healthy and what looked like in balance has given me comfort during my darkest days.

I haven’t had any visions of my life since then.  I’m only in my early 50’s, I have a ways to go and apparently still a long life ahead of me.  So apparently I make some good decisions in my near future since I end up there.  That sure is a mind fucker ain't it?

I think my highest divine self has been nice enough to give me some helpful hints along the way.  These visions or time slips, have really helped me along my path.  I just wish I could do one on purpose.

The 7 Goddess Archetypes

I found these to be very interesting as we go through the changes of stages in our lives. I also work with some of these architypes and aspire to even change my own sometimes. What do you identify with?

 Looking at the ancient goddesses as role models is a fabulous way for each woman to develop the self-love and appreciation for herself as a woman standing complete in her power.  Acknowledging the strengths of each of the archetypes and witnessing these values within her self, each woman becomes able to validate the shining light of her own inner goddess. 

The goddess archetypes are as follows:

Warrior Queen

History is saturated with the deeds, ingenuity and strength of Warrior Queens: Greek goddess Athena, Celtic queen Bodicea, Egyptian pharaoh-queen Hatshepsut, Elizabeth I, Marie Antoinette… the list is as endless as it is inspirational. All these queens share common attributes of resilience, poise, self-assurance and a dynamic presence.

Warrior queens have unshakeable trust in their abilities to lead. Without hesitation they are prepared to stand up for their rights and the rights of others who rely on them for security. They forge ahead despite (or because of) obstacles. They carve their own path and lead by example. They stay balanced in times or duress, and connected to their traditions and sources of inspiration whether they be at war or in peace. They are in tune with their physical body and respond to threatening situations rationally. And, they are deeply connected with Mother Earth and humanity.

Magical Muse

Magical Muses are the goddesses that rule over creativity, self-gratification, abundance and the feminine divine: Ishtar, Venus, Aphrodite, and the nine daughters of the Greek goddess Mnemosyne… they show us how to creatively, emotionally and sexually connect with others with respect and fluidity.

The magical muse is able to accept change gracefully. She openly and readily releases any need to control external forces. She can step into the flow of life whilst maintaining her sense of purpose. She has a magnetic aura and her body confidence is alluring and sensual. As such, she loves words like succulent, curvaceous, juicy and divine. In the aspect of abundance, the magical muse naturally attracts that which is exactly right for her. She asks for what she deserves and gives herself permission to receive it. She relishes beauty, embodies grace and attracts both attributes with ease.

Daring Diva

Any goddess or patroness that inspires you to step into your own personal power is a Daring Diva: the Greek maiden Persephone, volcano goddess Pele, Babylonian goddess Lilith and moon goddess Artemis are just a few role models.

A daring diva is able to present her stunning and glorious Self to the world whether the world likes it or not! She is absolutely real whether she is performing on stage in the lead role, supporting from back stage or simply content to be relaxing in the audience. She rises above superficiality and allows her authenticity to be her guiding force in decision-making and her actions. She is intrinsically connected to her intuitive Self and she is readily able to marshal her personal power for her highest good. She knows that anxiety and ‘butterflies’ that sit in her belly is simply her inner tigress preparing her for success.

Primordial Mother

Mother love is arguably the strongest, most enduring love of all. Kwan Yin, White Tara, Mary and Demeter are just some role models who exemplify mother love in their bottomless, timeless and unconditional love for their children.

The primordial mother embodies love, compassion and trust. All these attributes are a two-way street for her – as happily as she gives these gifts to others, she receives them back unto herself. She never, ever allows herself to accept second best because she knows that in order to shower love upon others she must be ready to accept it in equal measure. The primordial mother revels in her self-respect, self-love and self-appreciation. Her inner child is a reflection of her perfection. Her heart is open and willing to trust. She thinks love; she is love.

Natural Healer

Words have the power to hurt as well as to heal. In order to use words wisely, call on one of the many goddesses who rule over self-expression and healing: the Irish queen Dana, the butterfly goddess Hina, Hindu goddess of prosperity Sri Laxmi, or the Welsh goddess Rhiannon.

The natural healer is able to choose her words wisely to facilitate understanding. Her shared insights are precise, astute and relevant. She is able to seek and accept help, ask for abundance for her highest good, and make her point without aggression. She understands that her expressions manifest in exactly the way she describes. She aids effective communication between the genders, the young and the old, the experienced and the novice. When she speaks, she is heard. Just as easily, when others speak, she listens. She is often clairaudient in that she senses or hears (and heeds) Angels and other spiritual beings.

Sacred Sage

“Know thyself,” says Shakespeare, as do the many goddesses who rule over the domain of self-reflection: the Egyptian goddess Isis, the Celtic goddess Brigid and the wise woman, Hecate, for starters. They teach us to trust our innate wisdom and to allow that wisdom be our guide.

The Sacred Sage is readily and easily able to move on from petty issues. She opens her vision to see the Big Picture, and that is what is important. She lives in a state of clarity because she is able to release negative elements that no longer serve her: self-judgement, self-criticism, self-scorn. She regularly unclutters her life, both physically and mentally, and enjoys the liberation that comes with being in a state of ‘simplicity’. She has regular bursts of epiphany, relishes symbolism is grateful for the many miracles that present themselves to her every day.

High Priestess

Call the connection to the realm of bliss what you will, but there comes a time when everyone seeks a connection to Spirit, Universe, God/dess, Angels, and so on. Goddesses that preside over self-knowledge and cosmic connection include the Welsh goddess Cerridwen, Egyptian goddess Nuit, and American Indian weaver of life, Spider Woman.

The high priestess is able to see herself as a minute organism in the ways of the world, both in the physical and non-physical planes, in the present and the future. She is a cosmic traveller, time expander and a sacred vessel for divine expression. She believes in disconnecting from the world every now and then in order to travel to a spaceless, timeless place of all-knowing. Intuitively and effortlessly, wisdom, understanding and spiritual knowledge are her gifts. She knows her calling and honours her destiny. Everyday matters don’t concern her as much as the divine wellbeing of all living creatures. She is the gateway to the answers that lie in the great beyond. Prayer and ritual put her on a spiritual high that transcends earthly concerns.

- See more at: http://igoddess.com/the-7-goddess-archetypes/#sthash.pzulKKty.dpuf

New hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man revealed.

Brian O published this information back in 2010 and although it has not been successfully published under even alternative publishers, it has been released as a video album of a chapter by chapter exposition.  

At this time Brian O is opening the flood gates to an entirely new hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man. This has been compiled from existing records easily located here on earth.

 The Book of Man:

  http://vimeo.com/album/2701770/sort:preset/format:detail

"We don't know where they came from. And we don't know why they came. But we do know where they were going. And we finally know their objective." - The Book of Man

Brian O published this information back in 2010 and although it has not been successfully published under even alternative publishers, it has been released as a video album of a chapter by chapter exposition.
At this time Brian O is opening the flood gates to an entirely new hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man. This has been compiled from existing records easily located here on earth.
- See more at: http://www.alexcollier.org/#sthash.mBQjFeW5.dpuf

Brian O published this information back in 2010 and although it has not been successfully published under even alternative publishers, it has been released as a video album of a chapter by chapter exposition.
At this time Brian O is opening the flood gates to an entirely new hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man. This has been compiled from existing records easily located here on earth.
- See more at: http://www.alexcollier.org/#sthash.mBQjFeW5.dpuf

“We don’t know where they came from. And we don’t know why they came. But we do know where they were going. And we finally know their objective.” Brian O.
Alex Collier has sent me a link to this 11 part video album and he considers this very important.
Brian O published this information back in 2010 and although it has not been successfully published under even alternative publishers, it has been released as a video album of a chapter by chapter exposition.
At this time Brian O is opening the flood gates to an entirely new hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man. This has been compiled from existing records easily located here on earth.
- See more at: http://www.alexcollier.org/#sthash.mBQjFeW5.dpuf

“We don’t know where they came from. And we don’t know why they came. But we do know where they were going. And we finally know their objective.” Brian O.
Alex Collier has sent me a link to this 11 part video album and he considers this very important.
Brian O published this information back in 2010 and although it has not been successfully published under even alternative publishers, it has been released as a video album of a chapter by chapter exposition.
At this time Brian O is opening the flood gates to an entirely new hidden history of the origins and long standing story of man. This has been compiled from existing records easily located here on earth.
- See more at: http://www.alexcollier.org/#sthash.mBQjFeW5.dpuf

It's been a long time a coming...

I am at that cross roads in my life right now.  I need to buy a daily driver and my mechanic keeps telling me to buy a Honda.  I am considering it.  But when I mean I am at a cross roads, I am talking about a huge life change and style. 

I am an artistic soul and a bit of a fringe dweller at that.  I’m not married, have no kids and have everything I own in a 10 x 10 storage container.  I don't own a home any longer, so I have no big mortgage tying me down.  I rent rooms in beautiful homes with fantastic people these days.  I work contract jobs, so I basically can work anywhere and online "Virtually" anywhere in the world via the internet.  It’s still really expensive living here in the beautiful San Francisco bay area. 

I can’t really afford to buy the land I want just yet to build my shipping container home on.  I have been sitting at a desk for 50 hours a week, full of stress and anxiety at a corporate job for too long.  My back is killing me from sitting so much.  I work with over achievers who work and travel so much, they never see their own family's.  I work weekends and am on call 24 hrs. a day.  My one eye keeps twitching. I'm around people who own expensive homes and cars and hate what they do for a living to keep the lifestyle going.  This is no way to live.

I want more time, less stress, still have a comfortable lifestyle, but with more freedom to live my life.  All I dream about is designing and creating in my workshop.  What made me really begin to think about my life seriously was so many close friends of mine dying all around me, life is so short.  Someone posed the question to me a couple weeks ago,

What if you had only 5 years to live?  What would you do differently?

I really thought about it.  This has made me think much differently than before.  Think about it for a minute, what would you say?  I was surprised at my answers.  
 

1.    I sure would not want to work full time anymore. 

2.    I would like to see the country and do, see and taste all of things I have not before. 

3.    I would like to hear more music and see outstanding musical performers.

4.    I want to swim in a waterfall and savor every second of my life to the fullest. 

5.    I would like to spend more time with the people I love, quality time. 

6.    I would record the album I have procrastinating about. 

7.    I sure as hell would stop dieting and living for tomorrow. 

8.    I would have to start living more NOW.

Well how would I do that, now?  I have a small budget and saved up enough to buy a moderately priced daily driver.  Did I mention how much I hate to commute in traffic every day?  What the hell am I doing all this this for? 

How can I semi-retire early and start living a better quality life?

This is why I fell so in love with Charles Stephen Russell, God rest his soul.  Charlie did just that.  He was the FREE RANGE CHICKEN someone told him once.  He just changed his life and lived in his VW Art Car Bus for a few years, saved up some money and then bought a shipping container and flopped it down in Slab City, CA.  He lived free.  He worked online and took high end computer projects during the hot Niland, CA summer months and came back to the bay area. He would stay with me and visit friends. 

Around his shipping container, he built his own amazing compound of art, and beauty ~ EAST JESUS.  He bought me a little vintage teardrop trailer and fixed it up for me there.  I would come and visit him.  He was the truest maverick and renegade and one of the most amazing men I have ever known.  He lived free up to the day he died.  I haven’t dated anyone since Charlie.  I really do need to start living my life, heart included.

I feel like it’s time to start living and savoring the time that I have here, now!    I need the time, and the money.  I am looking at the possibilities of Living on Less through Voluntary Simplicity. I have a couple things in mind for my next steps. 

...but I know a change is gonna come.

and it's now.